Authentic Style & Identity
Building outfits that actually feel like you - color, texture, special interests, and the 'too much' you're done shrinking.
Clothing Is Identity.
And yours has been policed long enough.
Own It.
Wear the unicorns. Wear the thing they said was 'too young' or 'too much.' It's yours now.
Break It.
The rules were made up anyway. Dress codes, age-appropriate, 'professional' - none of it was designed for you.
Free It.
Every outfit people didn't get. Every uniform that made your skin crawl. You get to choose now.
Hold It.
Want to be the loudest person in the room AND invisible? Same. Both are real. Both get to exist.
The Good Stuff.
Everything you didn't know you needed.
Sensory Reality
Clothes that work with you, not against you. Fabric, fit, tags, seams - all of it matters.
The Style Spectrum
Same outfit every day? Walking art installation? Somewhere in between depending on the day? All valid. All here.
Guides & Resources
How-tos, brand recs, and real talk for getting dressed in a world that wasn't built for you.
From the blog
masking
Masking Through Fashion: How Neurodivergent Adults Use Clothing to Survive and Express Themselves
Clothing can be survival strategy for neurodivergent adults—a way to manage sensory load, express identity, and find safety between blending in and standing out.
→
Beyond the Blog
Writing, coaching and the person behind this.
Gentle Nook
Field notes and essays on life lived authentically. Neurodivergent lifestyle, identity, and all the stuff no one told us.
Coach Katy
Neurodivergent-affirming coaching. Identity, style, the stuff on your mind - let's talk it through.
Meet Katy
Late-diagnosed autistic. Former therapist. Neurodivergent-affirming coach. Unicorn dress enthusiast.
I grew up in a tiny Appalachian town, leaving mall dressing rooms in tears because nothing fit and plus-size teen fashion in the 90s was designed to make you disappear. So I did. Black tops and leggings for decades.
Then I got mad. Then I bought a dress covered in unicorns and wore it to Kroger and a stranger told me I made her whole day.
Now I write about clothing as identity, sensory survival, and the radical act of wearing whatever the hell you want.
Join the Weird
Subscribe for new writing, resources, and whatever else I'm thinking about at 11pm. Your inbox, slightly more interesting.
By subscribing, you agree to our terms and privacy policy.